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When actor and comedian Patton Oswalt suddenly lost his wife, Michelle, in April 2016, he went public with his grief. She’s left a blast crater,” the heartbroken widower wrote in an open letter, where he also talked about the impact his wife’s death has had on their 7-year-old daughter, Alice.
And his public, palpable grief may be why some people have reacted with surprise – and even criticism – when news broke of Patton’s recent engagement last week.
If these four markers are present in the life of someone who has lost a spouse, that person can weigh and discern whether or not to move forward with a new relationship.
“What we want to avoid is for a person to reactively feel compelled to move forward,” says Geremy.
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I’d like to hear from you: What advice would you share for someone who is putting their life back together after the loss of a spouse?
“We don’t want the remaining spouse to feel rushed.” Another factor a widowed person should consider in moving forward is his or her children.
“Parenting remains a profound calling as we navigate grief, and children will always be a factor in starting a new relationship,” says Geremy.
If you have experienced love after loss, what was helpful to you?
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“The method and pace of moving forward varies depending on the age and stage of your children.