One of my favorite quoted expression is: "By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail." (Benjamin Franklin - 1706-1790) But there are also many variants, that are 'close' to swindle practices, but not (yet) labeled as real illegal organizations.
These are organizations that will use methods to keep you as long as possible as a paid customer, or those who ask far too much money for their services.
or those that insist in a aggressive way to buy products or services from them which you never need.
Try to find out if her letters to you are very personal and don't look like standard generated letters.
Persons who are just trying to get your money are using pre-defined letters, just because they don't have the time to write each person in a personal way.
For the woman it's important to see that the man who is writing to her is serious about finding a new partner.
To be very serious in your intentions and to be very open to her, gives you a response which you can analyze as reliable or not.
Better be sure than sorry, so don't leave right now, we are not finished yet.
And if you are satisfied with our contents, please spread the word, I always feel sad if I receive emails starting with 'I wished I had found your website sooner...' Here are some tips to start with, these tips are an extract of parts of the subjects described in this topic.
These persons mostly don't answer your specific questions and don't give much personal information, but use general (predefined) text for their letters.
This is at least a sign that you have to be careful.
Perhaps their introduction or 'About-Us' pages or other relevant pages could give you some background information of this specific Dating Agency, which could give you a 'good' or perhaps 'wrong' feeling about this site and their services.
Also try to find out if they are a member of the Anti Scam Program.
Do not use any free dating site where women can contact you first. Any person can signup here complete anonymous (use any free email address and fake personal information).