But the reality of dating in the age of apps is a little more nuanced than that.The relationship economy has certainly changed in terms of people are looking for is largely the same as it ever was: companionship and/or sexual satisfaction.
Shortly thereafter, many more dating apps came online.
There’s been plenty of hand-wringing and gnashing of teeth over how Tinder reinvent dating: Maybe it would transform the dating scene into an endless virtual marketplace where singles could shop for each other (like an Amazon for human companionship), or perhaps it would turn dating into a minimal-effort, transactional pursuit of on-demand hookups (like an Uber for sex).
But then there was Tinder, and then there was Mike.
An expanded radius of potential mates can be a great thing if you’re looking to date or hook up with a broad variety of people who are different from you, says Madeleine Fugère, a professor of psychology at Eastern Connecticut State University who specializes in attraction and romantic relationships.
“People who are not very similar to their romantic partners end up at a greater risk for breaking up or for divorce,” she says.
Indeed, some daters bemoan the fact that meeting on the apps means dating in a sort of context vacuum.
For Flores and her husband, having access to a bigger pool of fellow single people was a great development.
In her first few years out of college, before she met Mike, “I was in the same work routine, around the same people, all the time,” Flores says, and she wasn’t exactly eager to start up a romance with any of them.
’” Plus, he adds, it’s never a good start to therapy when a patient thinks the therapist is behind the times or uncool.