Plentyof Fish is perhaps the most popular online dating sites out there, with an estimated 6 million pageviews a month and 76 million users (a little less than the entire population of Turkey).It’s no surprise that I received nearly twice as many messages on Plenty of Fish than Ok Cupid and Casual Kiss combined.
It’s creepy, and in some instances really scary – not a turn-on by any means. If you see a picture of a woman you like, take the time to read her profile. When messaging a woman without bothering to learn about her through her profile, it may come across as you not caring about her as a person – no one wants that. If you’re interested in something casual, tell her or put it in your profile.
Neither is asking for, or offering to send, nudes (unless they were not discussed first). If you’d like a casual encounter, make that known as well.
I haven’t used dating sites to try to find men to date ever since.
First off, telling a woman about what you would like to do to her sexually without any prompting is not a compliment.
I joined February 4th, around 7 AM, and received a total of one vote, two winks, and six messages.
The messages were all nice, although one user messaged me three times.
In fact, it’s not uncommon at all for women to be threatened for refusing to send nudes or insulted when they say they’re not interested in the man messaging them.
I spoke to a few friends about their experiences with online dating websites.
One of the most notable of these is a reddit user who set up a fake profile and didn’t last two hours.
He came away with the realization that women have it much, much harder on these sites: I figured I would get some weird messages here and there, but what I got was an onslaught of people who were, within minutes of saying hello, saying things that made me as a dude who spends most of his time on 4chan uneasy.
It goes without saying that Ok Cupid has one of the better reputations of more popular free dating websites for having a wide variety of quality users.