Dating apps reward homogeneity, sifting everyone into two-dimensional profiles that look the same, sound the same, and in some cases, even algorithmically identify which picture is best to represent you for the largest possible audience.Of course, people don't love each other for what makes them the same; they love them for what makes them unique.My personality, my humor, my empathy, even my snack-readiness, with no thumb-crafting involved.
A symbiotic relationship where two people don't just grow together, but toward each other.
But how do you decide on the person, the deciding factor of your success?
They didn't have to tell me through a text they were passionate, I could it.
I didn't have to endure the difficult work of predicting if they would make me double over laughing; it either happened or it didn't.
Yet it's difficult to find that depth over text; it happens with body language.
It happens with the dance and tempo of real conversation.
If you try to game love, you can expect love to game you.
Hookups and temporary flings can be easy to find on apps, but when deep connections keep evading you, it's not the app you question. It can chew on your confidence to the point where it's no longer raising your chances by widening the pool, it's hurting them by leaving you at half strength during the times that really matter.
I wanted someone to invest their love in me for exactly the things that make me different.