I constantly get emails and comments from readers who want to know why their dates or relationships tend to be short-lived and don’t work out for them.
It means very little when the both of you like unwinding to Friends and watching musicals but you prefer monogamy and he’s aye-okay stringing 10 women along at once.
I know some people who get hung up on “types” or will select partners based on these attributes: physical attractiveness, height, status, wealth, good education, size of the house he’s living in, car he is driving and completely fail to see that this person does not share their values and you will never be happy together.
When someone is displaying red-flag behaviour, acknowledge it and draw the line immediately. ”, “why would he not want to watch that movie with me? I love me some introspection and reflection, but overdoing it tends to lead you nowhere and you end up trapped in action.
Overthinking in my experience also points to an underlying lack of communication in your relationship.
You’d believe him though his actions show that he is a total tool, an unreliable, compulsive liar who’s talking to several women at once. As anyone can rock up to you and tell you whatever or write whatever he wants to in his online dating profile, and you’ll take him at his word.
We need to watch if the actions match up with the words or if they are just empty promises.
I know it’s all very exciting, to finally meet someone who is as passionate about the Flamenco as you are, but that absolutely does not mean that the person is gonna be a great romantic partner for you.
We grossly over-estimate common interests and place far too much emphasis on things that add very little value to a relationship.
Trust me on this, you don’t want to be in a situation where you are already emotionally invested and/or physically intimate and then finding out he has a wife somewhere or that he has some qualities that are deal-breakers for you.