The Total Package has a hell of a career going, but don’t you for a second suggest that The Total Package would be a workaholic—The Total Package is a family man.There’s just one thing The Total Package seems to be having a hard time finding—a girl worthy of his greatness.
If we were the same age we definitely would have worked out, but the whole experience soured me against age gaps in relationships.
I'm 29 now and I couldn't imagine dating a 19 year old.
I'm sure you are right that my experience may be the exception, but it is possible, and I hope no one thought ill of my ex, because he was a good man when I knew him. I was 18 and dating a 30 year old a few years back.
We did break up due to age gap, but that was simple incompatibility. At the time I thought I had tackled a lot of life and that I was very mature.
I treated him worse than he treated me, and I also lied about my age when we first met(because most normal people, which he was, would not date someone so much younger so easily). I've been on dates with people just 6 years younger than me (throughout my 30s), and found myself thinking, inevitably, "oh wow, we are in such different periods of life, we have almost nothing in common here", and have since ceased even trying with that large of an age difference. I literally cannot comprehend how people 11-15 years apart can find enough in common to make a relationship work.
I learned a lot about being a better partner from him. It wasn’t until very recently that I realized how inappropriate and borderline predatory it was on his part. Sure it's all legal and whatnot, but you just have to wonder what kind of a person dates someone so much younger when they aren't going to have much in common.
We would want different things and there would be such a gap in maturity. My current partner is older than me and REALLY made me feel like shit about enjoying things that people my age were enjoying.
I regret it at times because I feel I never got to live out my youth.
No woman worth her salt his own age would have put up with half the shit I did and unfortunately he was my first everything so I had a very skewed perception of relationships for a bit after that.