Feeld Pros: Feeld, formerly known as Thrinder, brands itself as a gathering place for people looking for something outside the sexual mainstream, like polyamory, kink, or multiple partners.
The app even includes space to list your sexual interests in your profile, which cuts out a lot of awkward introductory conversation, Busa says: “You’re meeting this person and you’re already like, ‘Okay, so we might have sex, let’s see if we have a connection.’ It’s really nice to cut to it and not feel like it’s a shameful thing to talk about.” Cons: The less experienced may have to do some googling.
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Cons: There’s a lot of overlap with other apps, meaning you’re often swiping through the same users repeatedly: “Bumble and Tinder are the same people, the same pictures,” Busa says.
The only difference is “you having to start the conversation” (in opposite-sex matches, Bumble requires the woman to message first).
Cons: The never-ending influx of possibilities can feel like a bit much: “It almost never stops refreshing, so it was just this constant stream of people,” Busa says.
“It was just a little overwhelming.” Plus, there are some situations where you really just don’t want to match with anyone in close proximity, like work or a family gathering (luckily, though, you can turn the location-tracking off and on to avoid any awkward moments). Bumble Pros: To Busa, the biggest draw of Bumble is its chat expiration feature.
With other apps, “so many times, we just sit on matches and nothing happens,” she says.
By design, that can’t happen here: The finite window of time to start up a conversation with a match is a good push to get things rolling.
Busa, a 32-year-old comedian living in Crown Heights, says she uses dating apps for casual hookups about once a month.
“I’m not really looking for a relationship right now,” she explains, and she prefers apps that offer her plenty of potential matches with a similar mindset.
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