Maybe it's worth discussing as your relationship gets more serious.Again, if you’re concerned about your boyfriend’s relationship with his ex or how he talks about her now, it’s crucial to talk about it.
“Depending on what the relationship is with an ex, liking their social media post might be a way of staying connected to old ways, or it might simply be an expression of friendship,” Klow says.
“It would be important to know how the relationship ended.” However, it's still a red flag.
" “If your new boyfriend is constantly talking about his ex, spending time on the phone with her, meeting up with her without including you, comparing you in a way that makes you feel less than her, these all point to the possibility of him still being connected to her in some way," says Jane Greer, Ph. But honestly, any behavior that's giving you a gross feeling in the pit of your stomach is enough to consider re-evaluating your relationship status.
"Something is a red flag if it's causing you significant and ongoing upsetting feelings like hurt, worry, suspicion, anger, insecurity, frustration, or feeling disrespected,” says Manhattan-based licensed clinical psychologist Joseph Cilona, Psy. In other words, if your partner is doing any (or all) of the below, there’s a chance he might still be holding a candle for his ex-flame.
Have a chat about the reason he feels the need to hold onto these memories, says Greer.
It’s completely possible that he just sees it as a memento of a fun time, Klow says—or he could be clinging to the past.This can be driven by anxiety, Klow says, and it’s a match you don’t want to win. " Or "She always texted other people while we're at dinner." Head for the hills.It may sound like a compliment, but he's just comparing you to her.And you should run.“This might be a concern in that he is still caught up on the past and has not resolved aspects of that relationship,” Klow says.That inside joke about Taylor Swift was probably hilarious back in 2013, but at this point it's just awkward for anyone who see's it.It does not mean you are still in love but rather you are witnessing the evidence that your spouse now has someone else in the place you used to fill.