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To create this article, 25 people, some anonymous, worked to edit and improve it over time. Of course, you can let her know you like her — while making sure to keep her on her toes.
Playing hard to get is the perfect way to get a girl's attention and to make her see that you're worth the chase.
A subsequent study found that when a target was less available, participants reported greater willingness to take that person to a fancy restaurant and shell out even more money for the date.
Overall, these findings tell us that the illusion of scarcity isn’t just an effective marketing strategy for merchandisers; it can also help you score a date and potentially keep them coming back for more.
However the news isn’t all negative, as the games are equally applicable to both men and women."Waiting for texts and communication that take forever can drive us crazy but weirdly attracts us more to the person playing games," explains Dr. "Researchers call it the 'uncertainty effect,' that we’re more attracted to uncertainty." asked study participants to rate their interest of potential partners who were described as either “very easy to get (low availability), very hard to get (high availability), or in between (medium availability).
The results showed a preference for “easy to get partners” for short-term sex, but the results showed that those looking for dates and relationships preferred partners who were harder to get. Even though science has provided us with this research (and we’re all up for appearing more attractive), ignoring your date is not a sustainable recipe for success.Is it possible, however, that the ways gender norms are changing have made the chase less desirable?After all, we live in a world today in which women are (at least in theory) more sexually empowered and encouraged to take on more initiative when it comes to dating, and the effects of this cultural shift is reflected in some new research.In reality, they were all simply shown a photograph of the same opposite-sex individual.Some of the participants were told their “partner” responded, whereas others were told they hadn’t answered yet.Can you enhance your desirability by making yourself less available? In one study, heterosexual college students were presented with profiles of three equally attractive people or “targets” who varied in their level of availability (high, intermediate, or low).