Taking pictures “isn’t even something that crosses my mind,” she says. Last fall, Jolliff signed up for e Harmony and Ok Cupid.“I want the ‘deeper’ connection that sites like e Harmony and to an extent, Ok Cupid, can bring,” Jolliff says.
But since Jolliff can’t read a date’s body language, she tells her dates that they have to make the first move. don’t paw all over me, but there is a way you can let me know that you want to move things further than friends, so just make that move.
I will let you know if I don’t want it.” Jolliff does prefer to date sighted people, she says, another contentious question in the blindness community.
She can distinguish lights from darks, and her seeing-eye dog helps her navigate the world. For Jolliff, such dating platforms are largely incompatible with Voiceover, a screen reading software she uses on her i Phone.
Yet her dog can’t help her swipe right or left on Tinder. They’re also completely image-based, she says, meaning they don’t reflect how she experiences life.
“We have no advice to give people who want to do online dating who have a disability,” says Elizabeth Mazur, associate professor of psychology at Penn State Greater Allegheny.
“We can’t tell you whether you will be more successful at versus Dating4Disabled.“It’s usually in between our initial contact and our first date that I tell them,” Jolliff says.“I will not ever be the person that surprises them.Telling a potential date too early risks scaring them away before they understand the nuances of the disability. “Should we be telling guys flat-out that we are blind in our profiles? “My stance is no, because then a lot of them scroll by immediately, thinking that I’m going to be a ‘burden.’ I like to let them get to know me a little first, but tell them before we go on our first date.” Jolliff says she usually looks for an opening — for example, if someone mentions something about driving — and peppers it with humor.Then she drops what she and her friends call “the blind bomb,” saying something like, “Well, you wouldn’t want me doing that! In some cases, men are receptive to dating but then cut ties quickly.But, at the same time, I get a little bit of conversation in to see if we are hitting it off.” Jolliff, 29, has been blind since birth due to what’s known as Leber Congenital Amaurosis, a hereditary disorder in which most of the rods and cone cells in Jolliff’s retinas never developed.