We’re not saying older men will be completely inflexible but you shouldn’t think you can change their ways once you’re in a relationship.
That’s not to say they will completely lack a youthful mindset: a study by Nickelodeon UK found that men remain ‘immature’ well into their early 40s, while women mature at an average age of 32 We use cultural references to express who we are and where we’ve come from.
If you find it odd that his favourite bands are Genesis and ELO, then you will need to decide whether you can get used to that, or whether you will feel increasingly isolated.
Also remember that older men will have the same dilemma with any references you make – they may make them feel old and distant from you.
When you and your boyfriend hang out with your folks, it sometimes feels like they get along so much better than you do with any of them. It’s possible he’ll want to stay in on most Saturday nights or give you an alarmed look when you suggest going to a rave with your best friends.
Compromise can be tougher because you want such different things. Of course he’ll probably have more exes than you do, but it’s not so much the quantity, but the quality of them.
This means that these women might be a part of his life — and therefore yours, too.
You expect emotional maturity but don’t always get it.
An older guy might tend to be more reliable and committed than a much younger one — bonus!
— but that could prove to be problematic if he’s keen to rush into a serious relationship and you’re stalling.
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