I may not even have thought of this as a problem if (hypothetically) we live together.
Whirlwind romances were all the rage for me in 1997, but I'm older and wiser now ... The first three months of knowing someone is a time of illusions. You need those three months to gather the data you need to decide if you want this person in your life for the next three months.
Instead of seeing the person objectively, you see them for who you want them to be. The Frisky: 10 best tips for dating online With all the disappointments that can come along with dating, I say why bother getting yourself in a tizzy about someone who could be a Russian spy?
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I can't even count the number of times that I or a friend started dating someone and days or even weeks later found out there was something seriously messed up about him. " "Oh, you just got out of a 10-year relationship last week? That's stuff you need to know before you move forward. But it might take me six months to a year before I'm buying this "my future husband" business.
Also, I think three months gives you enough time to see if the new person in your life is consistent. The Frisky: 12 celebs who denied getting breast implants TM & © 2010 TMV, Inc.
For instance, he hasn't said the L word yet (and I'm confused, because from time to time, I do get the vibe that he does love me from the way he looks at me and the way he takes cares of me). I asked him while we were on vacation around 3 month into our relationship if he loved me, he said he thought so.
Then I asked why he hasn't said the L word yet, he said he isn't ready and that saying the L word is a huge deal for him.
Your object of desire is laden with fantasies and projections. That's why I always say to myself, to my friends, and to you, single people, check in after three months and tell me how great the new person you're dating is.
I think it takes about three months to strip away the layers and start to see this person for who they really are. " The more and less obvious discoveries about another are made in that three-month period. Do they want to hang out once a week or six times a week and does that mesh with what you want? If everything is still coming up roses, maybe I'll dance a jig with you.
The Frisky: 30 things every woman should quit doing by 30 I don't want to sound cynical or jaded.