So, dating another employee is allowed at your job. But another aspect to consider is whether your work crush is your boss or someone who reports to you directly.
If they are in either of those roles, it's best to steer clear of shooting your shot all together. "You do not want a relationship to undermine your success, nor do you want others to assume your progress is only due to who you are dating," Goren says.
It really just depends, so be sure to read the room!
Maybe I'm just a sucker for romance, but there's nothing more thrill-inducing than developing a new crush.
Of course, that thrill can either be heightened or dampened by your crush happening to be one of your coworkers. But what about actual romantic feelings in the workplace? Even if there's flirty energy via Slack or tenderness in your latte runs, you've probably told yourself, "Nope, gonna pull on that thread." If you're wondering if dating a coworker is OK, well, there is a sliver of hope.
With the Tarana Burke's #Me Too Movement gaining more visibility in recent years, more conversations, both positive and negative, are happening about sex, consent, boundaries, and the workplace.
The main goal is to make sure that everyone, both you and your work crush, feel comfortable and safe at work.
"You may consider asking about current projects they are working on or other work-related topics to show you are still interested in casual conversation," Goren says. Not only is it respectful, Smedley says, "But is also empowering to each party to ensure their voice is heard, needs are met, and boundaries are established." It also prevents assumptions, which can often lead to disappointment later.
"Avoiding them altogether can create awkwardness and leave both parties unsure of how to act moving forward." So for the sake of your job? And even if the moment is awkward, acknowledge it, keep pushing ahead, and give your feelings for your work crush the pink slip. Be super upfront about what kind of relationship you're looking for: short-term, long-term, romantic relationship, semester-long fling, et cetera.
Not sure if your work crush buys you lunch because you're their favorite on the team or they're dropping hints that they want to smash?
Do some sleuthing and some good ol' Instagram stalking.
(And another 18% reported at a random hookup with a coworker.) What's more is that 72% of respondents said they would have an office romance if simply given the chance.
While tricky, dating someone you work with doesn't have to be a complete disaster.
If they accept, save the more personal and intentional conversation for that time. "Be clear about your interests and goals for getting to know one another."Goren adds that you should def ask your coworker out in a "comfortable place, that does not put either of you in a position of power." For example, asking your assistant or team member's assistant out for coffee in the kitchen or the common area is better vibe than say in your office, with the door shut.