A 1995 study indicates that 89% of heterosexual females who are active in BDSM expressed a preference for the submissive-recipient role in sexual bondage, expressing also a preference for a dominant male, and that 71% of heterosexual males preferred a dominant-initiator role.A safeword is usually given to the submissive partner to prevent the dominant from overstepping physical and emotional boundaries.Dominance and submission (also called D/s) is a set of behaviours, customs, and rituals involving the submission of one person to another in an erotic episode or lifestyle. Physical contact is not necessary, and D/s can be conducted anonymously over the telephone, email, or other messaging systems.
Dating a submissive
Fantasy role play can be an element, with partners taking classic dominant or submissive roles, or classic authority-figure roles such as teacher and student, police officer and suspect, or parent and child.
Animal play, where one partner takes the role of owner or caretaker and the other takes the part of a pet or animal, can also be D/s play.
It may have roots in the military, where new recruits are required to refer to themselves as "this recruit", rather than "I" or "me".
Human furniture: A nude submissive woman being used as a decorative table.
Most adherents search for the essential intensity, trust, and intimacy that are required to make any deep relationship possible.
Based on gender (of the dominant or submissive), D/s can be divided into the following sub-types:- D/s participants often refer to their activity as "play", with an individual play session being called a "scene".
The term dominatrix usually refers to a female sex worker who dominates others for pay.
It is common for writers to capitalise the "D" in Dominant but leave the "s" in lowercase for the submissive.
In addition to "dominant" and "submissive", a "switch" is a person who can take either role.
A scene between two switches can involve trading off the dominant and submissive roles, possibly several times.
Variation in D/s is virtually limitless and the activities take many forms, and may be combined with other forms of BDSM.