Do you remember how you felt when you failed that math test back in school?Or when your application for inclusion in that sports team was rejected?
Notice that in this particular example, you’ve identified three possible reasons for a rejection, two of which are entirely unrelated to you or your qualities.
At the same time, you’re also being honest and realistic by including one possible reason which involves you.
Again, I’m not here to tell you that you can avoid feeling hurt by feeding yourself some distorted version of reality.
I’d only like to draw your attention to the fact that often, you interpret a situation as a rejection when it’s actually not.
In any given situation, two people can never think or react in exactly the same way. Hence, it’s not only possible but in fact likely, that people will behave differently from how you expect them to behave.
In other words, how you would’ve behaved if you were them in a certain situation.
Over the last five years she has also been sharing her lessons from life in her personal development blog here:
Welcome to our reviews of the Coping with Rejection Love (also known as Single Use Credit Card).
Or more recently, when that job application didn’t work out? Nathan De Wall, Ph D of the University of Kentucky, the need to belong or the need to have strong and fulfilling relationships is as fundamental to human nature as is the need for food and water.
Rejection has been and always will be a part of your normal life as your daily mail. Even though we’ve experienced it a hundred times, each rejection is a new wound. Rejection basically means exclusion from a group, an interaction, information, communication or emotional intimacy. Research establishes that it’s not only natural to experience severe mental agony as a result of rejection, but it’s also as “real” as physical pain.
Try to invest yourself emotionally in these relationships. Use the pain of rejection to find other reasons to live. That will not only help you recuperate from your emotional hurt, but also prepare you for solving any issue at hand together with your partner in the near future.