The ease of access to pornography has allowed men to store up naked or scantily dressed—often air-brushed and utterly unrealistic—images of what he perceives to be the perfect woman.
But the more a man immerses himself in fantasy the less able he will be to appreciate reality, to the peril of his hopes for marriage.
While I respect the effort of these men to uphold a woman’s character as the supreme consideration, I believe their counsel—to the degree that they merely instructed the young men to trudge ahead with the relationship without sensing any physical attraction—was superficial and ultimately unhelpful.
Rarely does anyone ask the question of physical attraction is not present in such cases.
In order to fully answer this question, we must consider physical attraction from both a male and female perspective, while also considering It seems to go without saying that men, generally speaking, are initially drawn to a woman based on whether or not he finds her physically attractive.
A Christian man will be looking for far more than physical beauty (Prov ; ), but that doesn’t negate the fact that physical attraction may be, and often is, the initial cause of interest.
Nevertheless, attraction his holistic, and it possible that physical attraction is lacking in a man if he is not placing enough emphasis on a woman’s character which will, over time, serve to adorn her physical beauty in his eyes.
This is usually the underlying assumption of those who suggest that physical attraction is unimportant, but the men they counsel would be better served if they were told that physical attraction can and should grow when proper weight is given to a woman’s inner beauty.
” In fact, I think there should be more men in the church who are attracted to more women than is presently the case!
But I believe there are at least six reasons for why it is often lacking in men. If we think highly of ourselves and the kind of woman we deserve, then we will be disabled from beholding and appreciating the beauty of the women around us.
Pride blinds the eyes and skews the judgment (Ps 25:9; James 4:6), .