After experiencing the comforts of marriage, it can be tempting to settle for less than God’s best.You may believe the lie that you’ll never find a godly man or woman, that you’ll have to accept whoever comes along.
This may mean seeking out your pastor for support, joining a Divorce Recovery group or visiting a Christian counselor.
Some divorced church-goers try to convince themselves that God’s command to abstain from sex doesn’t apply to them — that it’s for the never-married crowd.
Like Jennifer, she needs some advice but is concerned about how she can make the transition into dating easy on her children. He’d like to date again, and some of his friends say he should start looking for a woman now — after all, he’s getting divorced soon.
But John knows better because he’s still married, and dating now would go against God’s desires.
If you start dating prematurely, you could be hurting — rather than honoring — those you date.
When Becky was invited to lunch by a man she met at a bookstore, she was excited.She was ready to date and had taken time to seek God and heal after her divorce three years earlier.She thought her lunch date had done the same, but she quickly discovered otherwise. During their lunch, his eyes filled with tears and anguish.However, Scripture is clear that it doesn’t matter if someone has been married or not, sex with someone other than your spouse is still fornication (I Thessalonians 4:3, I Corinthians 6:9).Don’t wait to put some practical boundaries in place, such as not staying at your date’s home overnight.He never introduces his date as his girlfriend, but a friend.