There are so many voices at play in our world today.
This plan will include such things as spending time around family and close friends to enable each other to see how the other person builds and sustains all relationships. I do not suggest that the couple spend all their time together at this stage.
It is a temptation to do so, but I suggest that it is actually unhealthy for the Christian dating relationship.
This is not wise and God wants to mature you in your Christian dating and bonding process.
It is my prayer that Christian singles will use the above to develop their own Christian dating guide for building a strong and satisfying relationship.
You need to know “what they are really like” before you move into a marital relationship. The couple has spent a good deal of time building their Christian dating relationship.
They mutually agree that this relationship has the great potential of moving into marriage.
There is an attraction to each other and Christian singles immediately (or soon thereafter) think they have found their soul mate.
Candidly, there is really little more in the Christian dating relationship during this stage than “physical attraction”. There is a temptation for Christian singles to begin saying, “I love you” during this fantasy stage. The emphasis should be upon enjoying each other’s company and building a FRIENDSHIP and refraining from going any further. After 2 to 3 months of this type of dating and it is mutually agreed, the Christian dating relationship can move into an exclusive dating arrangement.
It would be especially helpful to take the inventories mentioned above to the counselor for their input. It is very important that the couple receive affirmations from family and friends during this stage.
If they do not (unless there is a good reason), the couple should take the time to listen to the concerns and take steps to ensure that they are embracing and working through them. Once a couple arrives at the point that they “know” that they want to be married and have all the affirmations that they can receive, they can move from the Christian dating stage with confidence into the engagement stage. I do not recommend a prolonged engagement once the couple decides to get married.
It is important that there be a “pre” engagement period of time.