Avoid lists like “I want a blonde, blue-eyed man who is over 6 feet tall, is a doctor, doesn’t smoke, has never been married, loves dogs but hates cats, enjoys Italian food but hates Indian food, knows every word to every Beatles song, and has visited all Seven Wonders of the World.” It’s unlikely that you’ll find someone who can check off all the things on your list, and you probably can’t check off everything on his list either. So, pick the most important qualities you’re looking for and be more specific about those instead of creating an exhaustive list.
Besides talking generally about relationships, the researchers suggest you should also try to work in words like “surfing” and “yoga.” You don’t have to actually be into surfing or yoga to use these words, though.
Even something as simple as “I love working out and tried yoga for the first time a few months ago, but I’m more of a spin class kinda girl” will do the trick.
But you need to find that happy balance between saying what you want and appearing too picky.
Think about how you would feel if you read a guy’s profile that said something like “I want a blonde, blue-eyed woman who isn’t over 5’5″, is a doctor, doesn’t smoke, has never been married, loves dogs but hates cats, enjoys Italian food but hates Indian food, knows every word to every Beatles song, and has visited all Seven Wonders of the World.” OK, that’s an extreme example, but you know what I mean.
A couple of studies published in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin and reported on by The Huffington Post shows confident, and even overconfident, online daters are considered more desirable. The studies also found that if you take it too far, then you’ll come off as arrogant instead.
When you’re crafting your profile, there’s no harm in sharing your accomplishments and the qualities you possess that you most admire about yourself and that you can bring to a relationship.
If you’re going to follow one piece of advice from this article, make it this one.
Using proper spelling and grammar in your dating profile is vital, especially for men.
But remember to throw in some modesty as well — no one likes a braggadocious date.
Creating a great online dating profile is more than just saying who you are and what your romantic desires are — there’s also some science to it.
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