By that same logic, you should also never feel pressured into going home with someone after a date, or meeting up with them again unless you’re sure you really want to.
Roughly seven million UK residents are currently using dating sites, not to mention all the eligible singles dating offline.
There’s really no need for anyone to settle for the first offer. Try not to make the new person you’re dating the centre of your world.
We all have that friend who used to be so much fun, and who listened to all our problems, then suddenly started dating someone new and vanished into their world. Equally, don’t quit your hobbies for your new date.
Regardless of whether you end up paying, it’s polite for both parties to offer to buy a round of drinks or split the overall bill.
Please don’t think you have to go on a date with the first person who asks you out, just because you’ve been single for a while.
Dating expert Jean Smith points out that many people get nowhere with online dating because they’re not in the right frame of mind for it.
“Sort yourself out first, then look for a partner,” advises Smith.
It’s important you choose somewhere public for your first date, and as an extra precaution, make sure you let a friend or family member know you’re going on the date, and that you’ll contact them in however long if all goes well. You’re probably thinking about them intermittently throughout the day and it’s natural to want to let them know what you’re up to.
As a general rule, avoid people who instantly suggest you come over to their place, or who seem overly pushy to meet you before chatting first. It’s important to remember that it’s early days, though, and even if they’ve given you all the right signals so far, receiving a picture of the quinoa salad you made for lunch, or several missed calls when you only spoke the night before, might be enough to give them cold feet.
If your ideal first date is getting to know one another in a snug, independent coffee shop, but they suggest taking you to your first heavy metal gig, it’s worth trying to find a halfway ground.
If you feel comfortable in your surroundings on a date, you’ll give off a more relaxed impression and be able to enjoy yourself.
In short, try to avoid the ex chat when you’re on your first date.