And call me jaded, but I have a very strong suspicion that if they are not already sexually active, they will be soon.
There is only so much unattended time two teens can spend together before the inevitable takes place.
That means voicing your concerns and having a conversation with your daughter about her life and your expectations.
Our goal is to open a real discussion with your daughter.
But if your relationship with her is pretty good, do you feel challenged when it comes time to create and uphold reasonable boundaries?
I have met this boy several times, and he is very sweet and responsible, working a full-time job and renting an apartment.
And he assured me that he will not be doing anything sexual with her until she is of legal age. I know that if I stop her from seeing this boy, she'll be upset. A: Okay, I took a deep breath before I started writing this.
I have a 14-year-old daughter and when I read this, my initial thought was, "Awww, heck no." I would be chasing him off the lawn with some kind of kitchen spoon (or worse), making all kinds of threats.
But we are in the land of reality and not pure emotionality, so let's be practical here. (Yes, there is good news.) •Hey, you know about this man!And if this is the case, you still have a choice between abdicating responsibility (and saying nothing) and taking the full nuclear option of demanding they not see each other.If your connection with your daughter is strained, start hanging out with her. Do whatever she likes to do (shop, surf the Web, ride bikes, kick soccer balls), and ask her what she likes about the man she's dating, what makes him interesting, and what they have in common.What I am concerned about is that your 15-year-old daughter is spending her time with a man who has an apartment and a full-time job.There are developmental milestones that he has had (graduating from high school) that your daughter may be missing out on if she is sitting at his place, watching TV and waiting for him to get home from work.Realistically, I am not overly concerned that he is 19 years old.