If they don’t let you call them at home, yep, red flag. Of course, there are more subtle warnings that one may be tempted to overlook, especially if one is eager for the relationship to work out.
While one shouldn’t jump to conclusions without sufficient evidence on the first problem that arises, an emerging pattern is not something to make excuses for or brush under the rug.
Improve your dating technique by understanding common mistakes people make. Game playing: This strategy is usually employed for one of two reasons. When it comes to dating, everyone, on some level, fears rejection.
Often people tend to do this if there is a problem with low self-esteem.
Valuing yourself enough to put your needs on the table as well as the other person’s is key in establishing balance and harmony.
Assertiveness is not to be confused with being bossy or demanding.
Being tactful and direct is the quickest path to relationship success. Sacrificing too much to get the relationship: If you find that you are doing things you would not otherwise do to get someone’s attention, like bending over backwards and injuring your spine in the process, then you are entering the land of the doormats.
Let things evolve a bit, as you get to know someone. Avoidance of intimacy: While this one is traditionally men’s domain, women are quickly catching up in the fear of commitment zone.
Patience and restraint are required here, even though you may feel pressed for time. Modern society imposes so many requirements and expectations on what makes for a “good catch,” and that makes it hard to sort through whether someone would be a good choice for us.In the first 3-6 months of a relationship, you are likely running on oxytocin, which is a chemical found in chocolate.It creates the sense of well-being and euphoria that comes with “falling in love.” This might as well be dubbed the period of temporary insanity, because you are not in command of all your faculties; your brain is hijacked by those lovely chemicals, interfering with your ability to think clearly.Don’t keep making the same mistakes: If you need help in improving your relationships and your life, Therapy can help. Allison Kahner has been helping clients improve their lives for years. Our office has moved to Westchester (scarsdale) Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is proven to help clients with such difficulties as anxiety, stress, panic attacks, depression, and low self-esteem. More and more, we’re finding our jobs, our cars, and our homes online – and we’re also finding love.Until you have time to really get to know someone, and see him or her in a wide range of situations, it is helpful to not get ahead of yourself; don’t strongly attach to some illusion that you have created about the person.